Sunday, August 29, 2010

Words To Live by

Something I thought I had definitely learned was that the Internet is very efficient at exposing the mistakes of others to us. I always knew that you can't unsee something and as well you can't unsay words once you've said them. And you can't unwrite something once the person you've hurt has seen it.

As long as I have been blogging, I've always been mindful about the possibilities of hurting people with my words. I always tried to avoid writing when I was frustrated with friends, family, colleagues, etc. I'd done a good job monitoring myself until recently.

I've been in business for myself approximately two years now. My results have been less-than-stellar, mostly because of my own shortcomings. To say there have been failures and frustrations along the way would be more than an understatement. I've sought out experts from every walk of life, both in the fields I'm in as well as so-called social media "experts. One I grew to admire suggested that every self-employed business person keep a diary of day-to-day activities, in order to have a record with which to hold oneself accountable. Seeing as how nearly every aspect of my life is either web-based, data-based and computer based, it seemed a perfect fit to create my diary online.

And as I considered myself an "expert" when it came to these forms of communication, I thought I would have firm control over the privacy of those thoughts. I would vent my frustrations, list my mistakes, all with the purpose of learning from them, and make myself not only a better businessman, I'd emerge a better person as well.

(See introductory paragraph)Well I wasn't as smart as I thought.

I hurt a friend with my words in my private diary. This shouldn't have happened because 1. I should have double-checked my privacy settings and 2. I should have never said the words in the first place. If you don't want something heard, don't ever say it, right?

Well, I have learned my lesson, but at the expense of someone else's feelings. It's too late to take the words back, but I hope it's never too late to apologize for hurting another.

From this day on, this blog will be used solely for the purpose it was intended. To make silly fun of things as I see them, and never be hurtful in the process. While this is, and will be treated as a private matter between the person I hurt and me, I speak openly about the subject because I want to remind you that the internet holds no secrets, and if you don't want to hurt someone, don't say or write the words that can do it to them.

I will be revamping this blog from the top down and bring it back to being somewhere fun to read. That will be happening as soon as I make my apology to that person, and hopefully it is something that will fade in time.

I hope you will read one more drab entry beyond this one, and then join me when I relaunch the Blog.

And to my friend, I apologize here, first. A phone call will follow.

I'm sorry.

9 comments:

  1. Sorry I haven't been able to keep up with blogging much but seems like a nice thing to do this fine Sunday evening. So true, we need to be careful what we say and it is so hard to take a thing back once it's out there. For years I've had two blogs, one for public writing and one that stays private for such venting as I need from time to time. This has helped me a great deal. Every once in a while I panic and can't remember if I wrote something I shouldn't have in my public blog and have to go back and read it all the way through ha ha!! Ugh!! What a chore but that has gripped me several times!! I hope even in my private journal I remember to vent carefully. I share a lot of things there that I would hardly share with strangers too... only the most trusted of journal readers are there... and LOL NO FAMILY OR CLOSE TO ME Friends ha ha... only internet friends.
    Lisa in Kentucky

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  2. Jimmy try to remember something here, your human. No one is perfect and at some time or another everyone ends up saying something they regret. You did the only thing you could do, you apologized. To say you will never have moments of needing to rant or empty your head is fallacy. Be human and trust that those around you - get it. (Hugs)Indigo

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  3. Jimmy, if there is anyone in the world with more integrity than you, my friend, I'd love to meet them. I'm sure your friend knows that as well and that your apology will be accepted. You are truly one of the most thoughtful and kind men I've ever known, virtually or otherwise. God bless you!

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  4. I tried just now to count all the times I have said or done the wrong thing...I'm exhausted from the effort. Please don't beat yourself up. You are sorry. You are human. None of us are Gandhi-like.

    My misguided public behavior is legend. ~Mary

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  5. I myself have learned that the hard way. Not fun. You're a good person Jimmy, and don't you forget that. And honestly, I can't really think of anything you've put on here that has been rude or offensive.

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  6. A voice out of your past...I am so glad you are still writing...I am in Colorado and enjoying my leisure. Finding you and v and Jodi makes me smile...you always did and you always will...I love you when you rant...The wizard of a-a-h's is articulate as well...I know it is serious but I cannot help laughing.. Hope all is well with you and your family
    Love,
    Courtenay

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  7. Am I missing something, you have not posted since July, so I do not see where you have offended. Perhaps it was more on facebook, and there you must always be careful, because the privacy settings are very fluid. I am sorry that you may have hurt a friend, and your apology will certainly be accepted. Hope all is well with you.

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  8. I'm always getting in trouble for posting things in blog. It's usually family that gets offended. I wonder what they'll do when I take all my entries from way back in J-land thru now and write a book? LOL

    Have a good rest of your week.

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  9. It sounds like you're handling it well. We're all human and say things that we later regret; you realized it quickly and are taking steps to make amends. I hope all will be quickly and painlessly resolved with your friend.

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