Tuesday, March 20, 2007

How To Deal?

I remember in one of my child psychology classes some many years ago, the professor discussing how part of the growth experience of a child is the realization that its parents are not all-powerful and perfect. It teaches the child that human beings have limitations that we must learn to live with. The concept is essential in that it starts the child on the road to self-reliance.

On the other hand, one of my life's major frustrations had been coming to terms with those limitations in myself. I think the worst times in my life come when I see a loved one hurting, and I realize that I cannot make it "all better." I understand, of course, that part of life is enduring its difficulties, that those difficulties can help build character. But it doesn't calm my frustration when someone I love is hurting.

I'll never stop looking for the magic wand though, ya know?


  1. Oh jimmy, you're so deep.

    Life gives us trials to make us stronger; to build faith and make us rely on God; and like you said, to build character. They also provide opportunities for others to serve (hence your 'magic wand').

    I believe we are here to be tested and tried, as well as to find joy and happiness.....life has a purpose.

    It's nice to know there are thoughtful people out there :)

  2. Sweet of you...
    If you ever find that magic wand, could I borrow it?


  3. It would be nice to be able to stop ourselves and others from hurting. So many people try to make the pain go away by turning to drugs - pills, alcohol, smokes, food, religion... I think the trick is to develop the kind of faith in God (or whatever higher power - I choose God) in the easier times that can sustain us through the tougher ones, and not to just use faith as a drug we keep in the cabinet until we hurt again.

    I hope things get better for you and your loved one.

  4. I feel the same way, but there is a wise saying (especially in 12-step circles) that says that one shouldn't get in the way of another's pain. Pain causes the individual to self-examine and take positive action.

    Still . . .

  5. Anonymous1:39 AM

    I'll never stop hoping and praying for a magic wand myself. Not only for my family but for my friends. It's difficult to watch those we love hurting.


  6. Never ever stop, thats where we find hope too...

    Peace my friend,

  7. You and me both, bud.


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