Saturday, February 16, 2008

The Day After

While I've always enjoyed Valentine's Day, the day after was always up there on my list as well. It was always fun to run into those people who had a good day together, hearing about all the smarmy romantic things that somebody's loved one did, and I have to admit that getting a few "aww's" from my friends for something I did was kind of nice too.

It's funny, my life is a little lacking in the romance department the last few years, but I don't react as I thought I would. I don't necessarily covet what others have, or begrudge those who have it. It's really nice seeing the look on the face of a happy person.

Believe me, I really miss intimacy, having someone lying close, listening to her breathing the kind of breath that only comes when she is sleeping; sharing a dinner from one plate, the silliness, those moments that require no words.

It's just not my time now, you know? The way life is these days just doesn't allow for it, and it would be selfish to be involved because I just don't have it to give right now.

But I wouldn't want anyone else to hide their joy from me out of feeling sorry for me or anything like that. I think there's so much bad stuff going on in the world that even though Valentine's might be over-commercialized, I don't think expressing one's love for another ever really qualifies as a bad thing, smarminess included.

I listen to a lot of what would be considered "pop". And while I most certainly don't want to be 19 or 20 again, the music of people that age is just ripe with the kind of emotion and expression that I don't think any of us should ever get tired of. There's just something about full-blown passion that lights me up, even if it isn't for me. I just like knowing my friends and loved ones are loved.

As I said, I do miss it. And I'd want another shot at it again some day when the time is right. I'd love to make someone happy, and I want to be that one that brings a smile to her face.

But until that time comes, thank you for sharing your happiness with me. This forum offers such a unique experience, peeking into the lives of others. It's a good way to reach out for support when times are tough, but it's also a great way to share the joy, and that's what I think I love most about it.

So, Happy Day-After Valentine's Day to all those who had a great one. And if you're in my situation, hang in there. I have to believe there are some good times out there for us too. It's all a matter of timing.


  1. Such heart-felt words. You have such a wonderful attitude, lippy. I hope when you are ready you find all that you are looking for and deserve. (And thank you for your beautiful comment on my blog ; )

  2. I hope your right, Jimmy..Ü
    Have a great weekend.

  3. This was a wonderful post. Yvonne took all the words out of my mouth...or should I say keyboard? You will find someone you can make happy and that makes you insanely happy too :)

  4. I second the other comments. You are such a good person.

    And I agree about this forum. Minus the freaks who show up now and again, it's such a good way to interact, mingle, and share the ups and downs.

    And just because we don't have that special someone, doesn't mean we can't find happiness. We just have to look for it.

  5. Happy belated Valentine's Day!
    It doesn't have to be Valentines Day to spread the love to those you care about...right? :)


  6. Wow...that is just too sweet that you are able to care like that. I actually was very hesitant to put in an entry about what a great "VD" I had for that very reason. I'm glad you're not like that...alTHOUGH...I did notice you didn't comment. hmmmm... ; )

    Oh...and just for the record? It's not the day's 2 days after. (always here to serve).

    Happy Belated...



    You did bad.


  8. umm, Nancy, that's 0 for 2 in the same comment!

    1. I did in fact leave you a comment
    2. I was writing about "The Day After", not on The Day After.

    Silly. :)

  9. Wishing you love today and every day dear friend. What a wonderful heart felt entry. I know for a fact when the time is right, you will make some special woman very happy! (Hugs) Indigo

  10. Great entry! I, like you, don't have that romance-thing going on in my life. I really do miss the romance, intimacy, and passion. One day I will have it again. Until then.... I'll wait. :)

  11. Anonymous11:26 PM


    Here I am... Late again as usual. And sorry to have missed such a heartfelt entry.

    Having similar thoughts about love and timing, I can't help hope for what lies ahead right along with you. Everyone needs love. And it presents itself in many forms.

    But that romantic love, well that's always been a bit of a fairy tale untold for me.

    Friendship love, however... now THAT'S something I DO know about.

    Thank you for your friendship, Jimmy.


  12. Gaboatman6:20 AM

    Great post! Hang in there, I'm sure a great guy like you will have another shot at it when the time is right.

  13. Anonymous9:46 AM

    Great entry about V-Day. You deserve a special love, Jimmy. For those of us who are divorced, love is even more special because we don't have another person to enjoy. Let me know when you start taking applications.


  14. What a beautiful post, Jimmy. I have no doubt there are good things in store for you.

  15. Of the fourteen comments before mine, one was a man, one had 2 comments, one I am not sure of and one was yourself, so including have at almost a dozen women stalking your happy butt...LOL!!! You are THE MAN whether you got a heart shape box or not! Its always hard for me to imagine you are not swarmed by women, but the right one is gonna find you one day! Happy few days after VDAY! May next one find you to romantically indisposed to find time to write about the day after!

  16. ...And can I just say thank-you for that!?!
    I'm sure there's something wonderful in store for you. How could there not be, when you're willing to enjoy other's good fortune without judging it or envying it.

    You're amazing!

  17. This was such a wonderful post! I so appreciate your amazing attitude. I hope you will have a future relationship that will bring you joy..and I really belive you will! :)

  18. I can't wait to hear about it when it is YOUR turn my sweet friend...until then...Love ya babe!!


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